Monday, 20 April 2009

My mother, your mother, our mother

The month of May reminds me of Mother's Day ...though in fact, every seconds is mother's day....That is why we don't have such mother's day in Islamic calendar. But probably, people are getting busier as they live in so-called "modern" world......they need a special day for their moms..Anyhow people can come out with so many arguments ... In reality, children tend to leave mothers and fathers at home, hoping they are able to cope with their "geriatric" world themselves...Approaching "young adulthood" somehow i can feel what mom and moms feel....Having super power ? grandiosity? The answer is NO...


Definitely the decision to leave your mom at home while you are working somewhere else ( 400 km away from kampung? ) comes with certain reasons...Not solely based on self-interest or materialism ....am i??


Anyway, since i'm not yet working , i can't point my index finger to others, cause who knows the other four fingers will point towards me....





Special attribute to my beloved ummi....

Who should I give my love to?
My respect and my honor to
Who should I pay good mind to?
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hold you
And clean you and clothes you
Who used to feed you?
And always be with you
When you were sick
Stay up all night
Holding you tight
That's right no other
Your mother (My mother)

Who should I take good care of?
Giving all my love
Who should I think most of?
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hear you
Before you could talk
Who used to hold you?
Before you could walk
And when you fell who picked you up
Clean your cut
No one but your mother
My mother

Who should I stay rigt close to?
Listen most to
Never say no to
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hug you
And buy you new clothes
Comb your hair
And blow your nose
And when you cry
Who wiped your tears?
Knows your fears
Who really cares?
My mother

Say Alhamdulillah
Thank you Allah
Thank you Allah
For my mother.


P/s: Miss my childhood when ....

i kissed her before going to school...
she waited for me ...
served me with drink right after reaching home from school...
and many more...

special love goes to her......

Fad

Saturday, 18 April 2009

the unique gift of life




Bismillah and alhamdulillah....

"It is interesting that you probably know the exact time, date and place of when and where your birth took place, but this is only because you were told about it. What is less clear is the elusive and mystical moment you truly became aware of your existence"



Almost one month being with 'em ( special people i could say). They are deprived of attention and not knowing their real conditions...The psych ward is also not that conducive, in fact normal people can suffer if end up there just for few days (experimental wise!) From the beginning i don't like yellow-painted ward, i don't know why..The colour looks so fierce, fiery, hot and not "cool" at all. Same goes to respiratory unit in my practised hospital, it seems like all sort of germs are crawling there, having fun despite the ward should be germ-free....Well it doesn't mean i'm obsessed or having visual hallucination but some people just can't stand something..... anyway..

One mail from Islamic Bulletin and the contents are pretty much suitable for our muhasabah, especially when you are dealing with "not normal people" but you try hard to make them become normal again. Feel grateful for what we have......


The Unique Gift of Life

By: Dr. Maher Hathout
IslamiCity* -


The following is excerpted from the book "Islam 2.0" by Dr. Maher Hathout in which he shares a conversation with the Muslim youth.


Your life is a very precious gift from God. Count back to one year before your first birthday, and then try to imagine your state - your state of nothingness. You can not. You may be able to contain and grasp "things," not "nothing." You were born and came to life, not because you wanted to, but because you became. Through a decision by an authority higher than you, and through a process that you did not participate in, you came to occupy a place in existence. (thanx ALLAH and my parents)

With the dramatic event of your birth, you came to life with three huge realities.

First, you are unique. Nobody else is identical to you, not even your identical twin or, in this age of cloning, even your clone, because your psychological, spiritual and energetic content is poured into your physical being in a unique way. When God blows a spirit into each individual, it manifests in a special way. You are one of a kind.

Second, you are immortal. Your biological structure, which is the product of the substance of earth, will degrade and recycle in the biological cycle on earth, but your energy, soul and spirit will always be. If you appreciate your uniqueness and your immortality, your individual values, responsibility and accountability will emerge. God reminds us in the Qur'an that;

"[And God shall say.'] "And now, indeed, you have come unto Us in a lonely state, even as We created you in the first instance,' and you have left behind you, all that We bestowed on you [in your lifetime]. And we do not see with you those intercessors of yours whom you supposed to have a share in Gods divinity with regard to yourselves! Indeed, all the bonds between you [and your earthly life] are now severed, and all your former fancies have forsaken you!" (6:94)

"and every one of them will appear before Him on Resurrection Day in a lonely state. " (19:95)

The third reality that comes with the happy event of your birth is a cobweb of expanding circles of relationships. These are different from the countless relationships you acquire throughout your life, such as your friends, neighbors, teammates, and spouses. The first package of relationships that come with your birth day are not subject to your choice; you do not choose your parents, siblings, kin, ancestors, race, gender, place of birth or even country of origin. This category of relationships is a gift form God, you accept, appreciate, and nurture. While the acquired relationships like spouse, friends, and career need prudence.

While you will inevitably gain and lose, everything you lose may be regained, except one thing, time.

It is interesting that you probably know the exact time, date and place of when and where your birth took place, but this is only because you were told about it. What is less clear is the elusive and mystical moment you truly became aware of your existence. This blurry time, when you became cognizant that you are you, and that you actually exist, just snuck up on you. From the moment of that realization, each individual experiences life in a unique way. While you may be exposed to the same circumstances as many others, how you feel, perceive, taste, understand and react to life circumstances is unique to you.

During the predetermined length of your life, you embark on new information, experiences, and habits in which you learn and perform as a human on this planet. While you will inevitably gain and lose, everything you lose may be regained, except one thing, time. If you lose time, it is gone. Any period of time is a chunk of life, both precious and irretrievable. Based on these simple realities, you will have some basic decisions to make: Are you going to waste your life or are you going to use it? Is your life going to center around you or will you reach wider spheres of involvement and concern? Wasting life partially or totally, i.e. in one lump or in installments, all can be considered a crime close to murder or suicide, even if the gradual waste does not seem that dramatic.

There are many forms and ways to waste a lifetime. With a careful look around you, you can recognize many of them: leading an aimless and purposeless life; abusing your own body, mind and soul; eroding the environment, being shallow and inefficient; all are ways to let the wonderful opportunity that we call life slip away. A life centered on your own self is selfish and never provides fulfillment. Since human beings are interdependent, you will not be happy if surrounded by unhappiness, envy, and animosity. A life that is not dedicated to a higher cause is an elusive quest for unattainable happiness.

How unique our life is.. DO appreciate plz..

Fad
Psych posting
18 April09

Friday, 3 April 2009

INSIGHT INSIDE

Bismillah and alhamdulillah...

Perceive life as it is ...



For one week, I have been struggling to understand all the terminologies in psychiatry; they do make sense when we tried to relate things together, joined them all circurmstantially and tangentially. Being one of the selected people ( read in the world) to study psychiatry makes me realize how important happiness is. I think psychiatry is part of myself and part of everyone , and indulging in it pleased me a lot. The pursuit of happiness is something that concerns us all, no matter where we live or what our station in life is. People have their own way to explore the path to finding happiness and please don't misunderstand them. The stigma and labelling are the culprits that destroy their lives further, what will you feel when people labelled you as M** when you think you are not? I kept on correcting to one of my friends ( the patient) that M** is not a medical term, and we don't address such thing, rather we regard those with disease as something out of norm. If they are in the state of denial can we conclude it as poor insight? You judge it !




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Is that normal to have a swing mood? Have you ever feel depressed with what you have and who you are now? Believe me, everyone has the period of depression at one point of life, be it minor, major, hypo or hyper one. Only a positive minded person plus the supportive environment knows how to cope with the stressful situation. Mind you guys, more people will suffer mental health problem in the year 2020 and it will be among the leading problems together with all sorts of cardiovascular diseases. May Allah bless us all with health and happiness....

How to cope with stress and depression?






The answer is equip ourselves with faith, hope, patience, acceptance....and never underestimate the power of a smile ( credit to my friend! )


We don't want to institutionalise people with mental disorder rather we want them to go back to the community and make them "a function" human being. No deprivation of rights and all.

There is one sister ( patient) will be discharged and she appears very happy. Can't wait to go out of the "world" into another "world".


"'I want to pray, i want to become a good daughter and i want to become independent.
Previously i was not a good daughter, and now the hidayah comes and i want to become a good person. Please write me the solat time so that i can pray when the times come, " explained one sister when i asked about her first to - do thing after leaving the ward.
"Then you must wear scarf (tudung) and you will be a good muslim too.. Yes i am interested in wearing scarf and i like to eat, so i want to work in a restaurant, i can eat and can earn money as well" .

I'm revealing this simply to open our eyes that the idea of keeping them and educating them do help them in life provided they comply with the medications. I really hope we have the INSIGHT to see the INSIDE of their hearts. Put ours into their shoes, understanding them and inshaAllah we will gain more strength too....
Now i know why Islam teaches us to visit the sick one, to send one to the graveyard, to help the needy..list goes on....

mashaAllah Islam is very beautiful but sadly very few practise Islam as ADDIN, take some, leave some and patch the hole......


May Allah swt helps us in our way towards HIM and all the best for all..


Fad