After a final go...

Alhamdulillah , finally i am no longer an undergraduate student. However i am a student for the whole life. Thank you for the endless supports from ummi, ayah, siblings, lecturers and friends ..It is a matter of blessing and mercy from Allah that made you as who you are now. I am glad i am still alive and I know this is actually a beginning of a new chapter in my life. Go ahead and no turning back. Allah bless...

That's important!

Bismillah wal Hamdulillah...

Few days left for my final exam but i still feel the needs to jot down something which i would probably summarise this entry as IMPORTANT.
People understand the word important as do myself. They have their priorities in life which make them to think those are important for them. It is important for us to know what is important in our life and appreciating its importance. A small kid like my niece or nephew might think that his or her toys are important for them. What else? Sleeping, playing and attention from his or her parents. Human being as small as a newborn baby also knows what is important and what is not.
This is the first scenario..

The next scenario is when you are regarded as important by people around you without you realising it. It is pretty unusual. But anyhow what will you do then? You do not know such till the very last minute and suddenly things burst out.......And at the end, you also do not know what to do. Can you summarise yourself as "not smart" because you failed to see things using your inner sense. Like it or not, thing has happened and you also do not how to reverse it back. Well, my advice, " be smart and pretending to be one." You should appreciate who you are and walk straight !!!!


p/s: all the best...

Angka Yang Mengingatkan....

Bismillah wal Hamdulillah.

Entri kali ini dalam "English" berbunyi " A figure that reminds"...Hari ini genap 25 tahun kehidupan seorang insan di dunia mengikut kalendar Masihi.. Sudah lama mencecah usia ini megikut kalendar Hijri. 3 Rajab lebih saya utamakan tetapi 25 Mac yang selalu mendapat prioriti. Tarikh Islam tenggelam mengikut zaman. Mungkin anak- anak zaman sekarang sudah tidak tahu tarikh lahir mereka dalam kalendar Islam. Di sinilah letaknya tanggungjawab seorang ibu dan bapa untuk mengingatkan anak-anak mereka.

-Thanx and luv for someone-

25 tahun bukan usia singkat buat saya, apatah lagi buat ummi dan ayah. Permata terakhir mereka telah mencecah usia yang boleh dikatakan matang, pada usia Rasulullah saw dilantik sebagai Rasul, menerima wahyu pertama. Maka usia ini bukan sekadar usia, tetapi diiringi dengan tanggungjawab dan harapan. Tahun ini tahun terakhir dalam "undergrad" yang pastinya akan menyimpan kenangan yang ada signifikasinya. Seorang rakan mengingatkan saya untuk sujud syukur dengan usia ini. Allah swt memberi peluang untuk menyemai benih-benih amal hinggalah ke usia ini, maka gunalah usia ini dan seterusnya untuk terus menabur benih agar tersemai dan mampu dituai kelak. Risau agaknya dia jikalau ada kemarau panjang yang menggagalkan saya untuk terus bercucuk tanam. Mana mungkin mau dicari hujan jika tidak diusahakan? Hujan turun dengan bersebab , hujan turun dengan permintaan kita yang bersungguh-sungguh. Kitalah yang wajar berusaha untuk terus istiqamah dalam perjuangan sebagai seorang Muslim yang mengaku Mu'min. Moga mampu mencapai tahap taqwa.

Sambutan usia kelahiran bukan dengan kegembiraan biasa, tetapi gembira bercampur takut dan harap. Takut andai tergelincir jika jalanan itu licin, harap agar diberi pertolongan di sepanjang musafir ini. Harap agar andainya dipanjangkan perjalanan ini , bantuan Allah sentiasa bersama. Perjalanan menuju destinasi yang pasti, cuma tidak pasti sampai bila. Nikmat di sepanjang pelayaran inilah yang perlu disyukuri. Nikmat bukan satu tetapi beribu, tidak terkira. Nikmat sihat paling terkesan dalam diari harian ini. Setiap hari bertemu orang yang "kurang sihat" , tidak kurang orang yang telah disahkan "tiada harapan" untuk mereka yang berubat. Tetapi ketentuan Allah lebih pasti. Bila difikirkan mereka sebenarnya beruntung, mereka diberi peluang untuk mengetahui sampai bila sisa-sisa hidup di dunia akan berakhir. Mereka tahu telah sampai masa untuk ibadatnya lebih banyak, sujudnya lebih panjang.........

Nikmat diberi hidup dalam bi'ah yang terdidik. Dilingkungi teman-teman yang memahami. Itu salah satu nikmat di dunia. Semoga dengan nikmat manusia lebih bersyukur, manifestasi syukur adalah pilihan individu.




" Ya Allah, hambaMu ini meminta!"

"For you who know"

Relationship That Lasts

Bismillah wal Hamdulillah..

Relationship
A relationship is defined as the way two people* behave towards each other. * can be between people, animals, plants and the greatest relationship is between human and the God. Hablun Minallah wa Hablun Minannass. Muslims always use this to describe such relationship.

"And I have chosen you, so listen to that which is inspired to you. Verily, I am Allah! There is none worthy of worship but I, so worship Me and offer prayer perfectly for My remembrance." [Taha 13-14]

Use Solat as the medium to strengthen the bonding with Allah, the Almighty. Yes i do agree.

Humanity and serenity
What about the relationship between humans? How to strengthen it?How to solve the problems or misunderstandings? Being alive for more than two decades, i would say that people from all age groups will have some points in their lives whereby the arguments do arise. But the way they are solved are different. The level of maturity does contribute, perhaps. But I don't understand why people cannot forgive or forget. I have experienced being viewed as "weak" when i could not involve in counter-arguments. Please look at the subject that matters most. I am not interested in something which will end up with no solution but hurt feeling. I know quite a few of people around me who are still adopting such thing but I don't want to say that as something that they valued of. People do make mistake and they deserve for forgiveness. But the study of "mistake" is what we always missed. Some mistakes cannot be forgiven human. It is the nature of being human. But Allah does accept any repentance except few things.

1. Apostasy. "Lo! Those who disbelieve after their profession of belief, and afterward grow in infidelity, their repentance will never be accepted. And such who are astray."(Quran 3:90)

2. The killing of a believer. "Whoever slays a believer of set purpose, his reward is hell forever. Allah is wroth with him and hath cursed him and prepared for him an awful doom. ( Quran 4:93)

3. The attributing of partners to Allah. " Allah pardons not those that ascribe partners to Him. he pardons all except that"( Quran 4:16).

Guys, correct me if i am wrong! Who is the greatest? Our God or human? One day we might hurt people and we might need the forgiveness from them. So think about it.






I like to quote this,
"If one desires to be forgiven for his offenses, he must learn to forgive others. If one seeks forgiveness from Allah, he should learn to forgive others. If one desires that Allah overlook his weaknesses, he should learn to overlook weaknesses of others. "

I wish I could help them and may Allah help me.

Minute that counts

Bismillah wal Hamdulillah..

Everyday is the exam day



::Sigh:: one down, yet more to come. 10 minutes of Orthopaedic OSCE!

::Just finished my orthopaedic OSCE::

"I find it is hard to diagnose something in just 5 minutes , in addition to the adrenaline rush, " one might say. However like it or not, that is what we need to admit. Being examined and observed by someone who is "somebody" may accentuate that gush , plus accelerate the heart beat further. Sometimes it ended up by putting ourselves down and small, like a mickey perhaps. Act like a professional spy and think like a brainy one. That is the advice. You cannot be sure of how smart you are when you become the center attention. But the easiest way is, "Grab it while you are given one! "



There are no scripts for us

I like the statement above. Who has got the scripts for tomorrow? A script of life.
Nobody knows about how tomorrow will look like. It is a matter of plan and hope. Hope, hope, hope and anticipation. Who knows the price of "tawakkal"??? Priceless indeed! And who is going to pay for it? I don't know.

JANNAH

Bismillah and Alhamdulillah..
Thanx to Aysha, my beloved sis for this piece of reminder...

JANNAH FOREVER

When MOMIN will enter into Jannah, it will be announced....

1) You will remain healthy forever, disease will never come.

2) You will remain alive for ever, death will never come.

3) You will remain in bounties which will never be finished.

Jannah is made with:

Bricks of Gold and Silver
Its cement is of perfumed Musk
Its chips are pearls and Yaqoot
Its sand is Zafraan

There are eight doors of Jannah. These are eight grades of Jannah:

1. Jannatul Mava
2. Darul Maqaam
3. Darul Salaam
4. Darul Khuld
5. Jannat-ul-Adan
6. Jannat-ul-Naeem
7. Jannat-ul-Kasif
8. Jannat-ul-Firdous

Jannatul Mava is in the lowest,
Jannat-ul-Adan is the middle &
Jannat-ul- Firdous is on the highest.

Food of Jannah:

They will eat foods and fruits continuously up to 40 years
Every bowl will have a new taste
They will take eructation which will digest the food and there will be perfumed sweating for the digestion of water
There will be no urine and stool

Place Name:

There will be gardens in Jannah.
Every garden will have the length of about 100 year ' s journey.
The shadow of these gardens will be very dense.
Their plants will be free of thorns.
The size of their leaves will be equal to ears of elephants.
Their fruits will be hanging in rows.
Those who love each other for the sake of Allah will get a pillar of Yaqoot, on which there will be seventy thousand (70,000) rooms. These will shine for the residents of Jannat as the sun shines for the residents of Duniya
There will be rooms in Jannat in such a way that every room will have seventy thousand (70,000) dinning sheets. On every dinning sheet 70,000 types of foods will be served. For their service 80,000 young boys will be moving around looking like beautiful scattered pearls.
One bunch of dates will be equal to the length of 12 arms. The size of a date will be equal to the big pitcher. These will be whiter than milk, sweeter than honey and softer than butter and free of seeds. The stem of these plants will be made up of gold and silver.
There will also be gardens of grapes. The bunches of grapes will be very big. The size of a single grape will be equal to a big pitcher.
Someone asked, ya Rasulullah (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam): will it be sufficient for me and my family. It was answered, it will be sufficient for you and your whole tribe.

The Dresses of Jannah:

The dress of Jannat will be very beautiful.
One will wear 70 dresses at a time.
These will be very fine, delicate, weightless, having different colors.
These dresses will be so fine that the body even the heart will be visible.
And the waves of love in the hearts will also be visible.
These dresses will never become old, never be dirty and will never tear.

There will be four canals in every Jannah:

1. Water.
2. Milk.
3. Honey.
4. Sharabun Tahoora.

There will also be three fountains in Jannah:

1. Kafoor.
2. Zanjabeel.
3. Tasneem.

Qualities of People of Jannah:

In Jannah,

Height of every MOMIN, will be equal to the height of Hazrat Adam (Alaihissalaam) 60 arms (90 feet).
Beauty will be like that of Hazrat Yousuf (Alaihissalaam).
Age of youth will be like that of Hazrat Esa (Alaihissalaam) 30-33 years).
Sweetness of voice will be like that of Hazrat Dawud (Alaihissalaam).
Tolerance will be like that of Hazrat Yaqoob (Alaihissalaam).
Patience will be like that of Hazrat Ayyub (Alaihissalaam).
Habits will be like that of Sayyaduna Muhammad (Sallalahu alaihi wasallam).


"Aysha, i wish i will meet u in Jannah. InshaAllah"

FLY DOWN PLEASE

Bismillah and Alhamdulillah

Paediatric, Psychiatry, Obstetric and Gynaecology, and Public Health examination were officially ended .....Hence, results were out too..... There's no need of closure ceremony, enough for a huge sigh , suffice for the saying of Alhamdullillah.. Hope many of us celebrated the day with Sujud Syukur and Solat Syukur. Early 09 till Oct 09- a period of tiring and tears. Am i? Nothing much to share but just a bit of reminder to myself and everyone about the value of looking down once you are at the top. I have experienced being at the lowermost part of the circle, life is a circle isn't it? It was a great despair over a destined subject , yet people did lose the sense of being. We can't afford to be at the top all the time because if it were to be so, the synonym to that is stagnant and no generativity. Somehow, i agree with Erikson's Stages of human development; he mentioned that humans pass through the series of major crises as they go through the life cycle....From infancy up to late adulthood , the psychosocial crises seem to be very signifant, very practical but a bit pathetic. ...Middle adulthood with the range of age from 40-65, it should be generativity rather than stagnation.. Though he referred to something related to building generation , other interpretation might be acceptable. Generativity can be anything. Generate your knowledge, your attitude, behaviour et cetera. Anyhow, Erikson's theory does give sense.
No opposition! Erikson's did not talk about arrogant neither talk about humility.

“And give glad tidings to the humble. Those whose hearts, when Allah is mentioned, are filled with fear, who show patient perseverance over their afflictions, keep up regular prayer, andspend (in charity) out of what We have bestowed upon them.” [ Quran 22:35]

One blissful morning, i heard birds chirping, very loud .......Looked around and saw a small brownish bird had flown in through the window. He knew the way in but forgot the way out. The bird was in my room but i felt that he was so indifferent. I wanted to let him there, at least letting a natural music on, perhaps a zikr but thinking of the possibility of illness spread by that species, i made a move. Chasing him away, did not mean to be mean but just to give a meaning to something called bird. Pity bird flew so high looking for way out, never bothered about lowering the height of flying, never tried to use the bright and shiny morning as a guide. Nothing.


Me too, hopeless! Finally we both managed, own's target achieved. The bird taught me a lesson. Not need to teach me through chalk and blackboard, enough via the nature of self.......
We can fly higher and higher, but at one point in our life, do look down , do fly down....Because you may find your WAY by just flying down...





p/s: Hopefully, that bird is not blind....

APPROACHING THE LIMIT

Bismillah and Alhamdulillah...
Drop by to wish the best of luck in POPPH examination..
"this is your final exam"
"this is your degree exam"
"no give up please"


May Allah help me and friends...
Though i find this path quite thorny, there are still a lot hidden somewhere in the future...
I'm begging for some understanding from my closest friends...
A happy face is what i hope lasting forever....


POPPH
12 October- 27 October 2009

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Bismillah dan Alhamdulillah...
Hampir sebulan bersama para ibu dan wanita di wad bersalin dan wad sakit puan.
Agak singkat tapi sangat bermakna.
Menyedihkan bila ada kes bayi meninggal sewaktu lahir.
Berat mata memandang melihat kesedihan si ibu.
40 minggu dan 5 hari menggalas beban akhirnya hilang begitu sahaja.
Masuk syurga bayi itu.
Ada rasa terkejut bila melihat umur 20-24 sudah hampir bergelar ibu.
Terasa mereka sangat muda.
"Namun mungkin diri yang terlebih usia"

Salam Ramadhan

The Blessing RAMADHAN....

Bismillah and alhamdulillah....

"Ramadhan is the (month) in which was sent down the Qur'aan
as a guide to mankind, also clear (Signs) for guidance and
judgement (between right and wrong) ...."

Surah Al Baqarah 2:185

Ramadhan 1430H. The word "syukur" only for HIM, for giving me and "us" another chance to breathe in the air of RAMADHAN. This is the month of patience and the reward of this patience is Jannah. InshaAllah. Ramadhan comes again, giving us a special invitation to join the school of patience after being nurtured in "pre-schooling " class during Rajab and Sya'aban. The month of ALLAH and the month of Prophet Muhammad respectively. What does Ramadhan mean to us?Is that a matter of ritual thing that we do every year ?


Abu Hurairah (radhiallâhu ânhu) reported that the Messenger of Allah Sall Allahu alayhi wa sallam said: "Ramadaan has come to you - a blessed month. Allah has made obligatory upon you its fasting. In it, the gates of Heaven are open, the gates of the Hellfire are closed and the evil devils are chained. To Allah belongs a night in it, which is better than a thousand months. Whosoever is prevented from its good, then he has been deprived." (reported by Ahmad and An-Nasaa'ee. )

Prophet Muhammad saw informed his companions of its coming and it was not just a simple relaying of news. Rather, his intention was to give them the glad tidings of a magnificent time of the year, so that the righteous people who are quick to do deeds can give it its due estimate. Prophet saw has explained explained the hadeeth about what Allah Ta'ala has prepared for His servants from the ways towards gaining forgiveness and His contentment and they are many ways. So whosoever has "forgiveness" escape from him during the month of Ramadaan, then he has been deprived with the utmost deprivation. How Merciful ALLAH is!!!!




One year has gone and this year is my second year "fasting" in Penang and it would be the toughest month and perhaps years, for me and friends. We can't really enjoy the Eid celebration because of the inclination towards this special professions . Having study break for the POPPH exam together with Raya break! Can it be another aspect of patience that we can think of? I still can recall , years back when i had to attend my anatomy class during the first day of Eid . It's when we got to know our limits and strength...And for me it is not a big deal....

Hopefully this Ramadhan brings us closer to Allah, improving our Iman and makes us a better person , who able to stand any pain struck by the torns along the path of life.. There is no way that you can find a short cut towards achieving your dreams. But still if you are smart enough, you will find your ways actually shorten . But it happens unconsciously . ....




Ramadhan 1430H. Checklist for us :::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::

1. Ask Allah to enable you to reach Ramadan and to get the most out of it. 2. Intend to fast every day with Iman and pure intention seeking the reward from Allah alone. The Prophet peace be upon him said, "Whoever fasts in Ramadan with Iman and seeking reward (from Allah) his past sins will be forgiven". (Bukhari) 3. Read the whole Qur'an at least once as the Prophet peace be upon him did. 4. Have Sahoor as the Prophet peace be upon him said, "Have Sahoor because it is blessed". 5. Make Du'a during the fast because the Prophet peace be upon him said that three people's supplication is not rejected one of them is the fasting person. Ask for the good of this life and the next for yourself, your family and Muslims in general. 6. Make Dua before opening the fast. The Prophet peace be upon him said, "The fasting person has a supplication that is answered when he opens his fast". 7. Give Sadaqah and be good to people. The Prophet peace be upon him was the most generous of people and he was most generous in Ramadan. 8. Avoid anything that diminishes the fast such as, lying, backbiting, cheating, getting angry. The Prophet peace be upon him said "Whoever does not give up false statements (i.e. telling lies), and evil deeds, and speaking bad words to others, Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink." [Bukhari] 9. Do not eat too much after Iftar. 10. Ask for forgiveness since this is the month Allah frees people from the fire. 11. Pray At-Tarawih with Khusyu'. If you pray in the Masjid complete the Salah with the Imam. If you pray at home prolong the Salah as long as you can. The Prophet peace be upon him said, "Whoever prays during Ramadan with Iman and seeking reward (from Allah) his past sins will be forgiven". 12. Feed the poor and invite others for Iftar. The Prophet peace be upon him said, "Whoever gives Iftar to someone fasting he will have the same reward without decreasing the reward of the person fasting". 13. Try harder the last ten nights especially the odd nights. The prophet would strive in Ramadan more than he would in any other month and more so in the last ten days. 14. Say this Dua in the nights that Laitul-Qadr is likely to fall on: Allhumma innaka afuwun tuhibbul-afwa fa'fu anni (O Allah you are Forgiving and love forgiveness so forgive me). 15. Ask Allah to accept all your good actions during this month. Make doa for all musleems.... Ramadhan Mubarak and Kareem to all.. -Fad-

A LONG JOURNEY U'VE TRAVELLED

Bismillah and Alhamdulillah....
A special attribute to my nephew, becoming 3 years old cutie handsome boy this month...Wishing you a good and "soleh" life ahead...

....Azril Haiqal....

After a few weeks spent in Obstetric and Gynaecology department, i feel really attached to this specialty, because you are studying about the norm of being "woman", the challenges and the "special" things awaiting for 'em. Having chance to observe a normal and abnormal delivery, ( yet to deliver one)gave me a strong feeling of being :hamba: . Yes GOD servant! Labour is not a simple process, though it sounds simple. The pain is unbearable and i'm amazed how a mother can bear the pain for the sake of her child. People said, the pain won't last longer, the moment u heard the "cry", it's gone! Amazing right? But said enough, when they have grown up, they hardly sacrifice for their mother. Why can't we follow what our mom said knowing that we are part of them? That's not a simple math i suppose.

A child born through a normal delivery should not feel "down' in life

A journey that we have travelled thus far, taught us about perseverance, erasing the meaning of giving up from our lives , and illuminate our ways towards the future's. Am i right? We were once A GREAT WARRIOR for being the winner amongst so many competitors. We have won in a game towards becoming HUMAN. We were chosen amongst the thousands or in fact the billions.... to becoming one today. After two decades seeing the "external world" , shall we make a comparison? ALLAH knows better why we can't recall whatever happened during our 40 weeks in the mom's womb. It is either the life inside there was so horrible and if happen to store one in our memory, it might leave us a haunted life. Or else the life there was very pleasant and will make us not to leave the mom's womb............But we have to leave, to give way for our sisters and brothers to go through the same journey like how we did. Isn't it interesting??????


-priceless of being a mother-

It's about educating 'em!

Bismillah and alhamdulillah...



Pangkor Island



Public health , the climax yet to feel..God willing this sunday we'll be heading to Manjung ( Pangkor Island is there guys!) With bucketsful of hope, something must be waiting for me there. Enjoyment and hopefully a relief....

Public health is about educating the public, promoting health and disease prevention. I like the way he ( Health Officer) explained to us. Imagine a stream of river and so many people live along the banks of the river, then happen to be one person drowned after falling / jumping into the river......It's an analogy ! Those at the very end, who saved the drowned person would be some with curative in nature. But the one who works within the victim's community , to dig the issue of drowning in the first place would be the public health people. That is where we seek the reason behind it and help to prevent such thing from occuring again. That is the nature of public health team. Isn't it? I would say public health plays more role than those in hospital. No offense please. Preventive is better than cure. So does prevention outweigh others? Talking about Manjung in particular. A touristy Bandar Pelancongan dan Maritim. Sound nice and great for a "bookaholic' i suppose.

Read here for more details.

Guess we'll talk more after the trip ( or holiday?)
PUblic health as future field. Any takers?

My mother, your mother, our mother

The month of May reminds me of Mother's Day ...though in fact, every seconds is mother's day....That is why we don't have such mother's day in Islamic calendar. But probably, people are getting busier as they live in so-called "modern" world......they need a special day for their moms..Anyhow people can come out with so many arguments ... In reality, children tend to leave mothers and fathers at home, hoping they are able to cope with their "geriatric" world themselves...Approaching "young adulthood" somehow i can feel what mom and moms feel....Having super power ? grandiosity? The answer is NO...

Definitely the decision to leave your mom at home while you are working somewhere else ( 400 km away from kampung? ) comes with certain reasons...Not solely based on self-interest or materialism ....am i??

Anyway, since i'm not yet working , i can't point my index finger to others, cause who knows the other four fingers will point towards me....

Special attribute to my beloved ummi....

Who should I give my love to?
My respect and my honor to
Who should I pay good mind to?
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hold you
And clean you and clothes you
Who used to feed you?
And always be with you
When you were sick
Stay up all night
Holding you tight
That's right no other
Your mother (My mother)

Who should I take good care of?
Giving all my love
Who should I think most of?
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hear you
Before you could talk
Who used to hold you?
Before you could walk
And when you fell who picked you up
Clean your cut
No one but your mother
My mother

Who should I stay rigt close to?
Listen most to
Never say no to
After Allah
And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother
Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hug you
And buy you new clothes
Comb your hair
And blow your nose
And when you cry
Who wiped your tears?
Knows your fears
Who really cares?
My mother

Say Alhamdulillah
Thank you Allah
Thank you Allah
For my mother.

P/s: Miss my childhood when ....

i kissed her before going to school...
she waited for me ...
served me with drink right after reaching home from school...
and many more...

special love goes to her......

Fad

the unique gift of life

Bismillah and alhamdulillah....

"It is interesting that you probably know the exact time, date and place of when and where your birth took place, but this is only because you were told about it. What is less clear is the elusive and mystical moment you truly became aware of your existence"
Almost one month being with 'em ( special people i could say). They are deprived of attention and not knowing their real conditions...The psych ward is also not that conducive, in fact normal people can suffer if end up there just for few days (experimental wise!) From the beginning i don't like yellow-painted ward, i don't know why..The colour looks so fierce, fiery, hot and not "cool" at all. Same goes to respiratory unit in my practised hospital, it seems like all sort of germs are crawling there, having fun despite the ward should be germ-free....Well it doesn't mean i'm obsessed or having visual hallucination but some people just can't stand something..... anyway..

One mail from Islamic Bulletin and the contents are pretty much suitable for our muhasabah, especially when you are dealing with "not normal people" but you try hard to make them become normal again. Feel grateful for what we have......

The Unique Gift of Life

By: Dr. Maher Hathout
IslamiCity* -

The following is excerpted from the book "Islam 2.0" by Dr. Maher Hathout in which he shares a conversation with the Muslim youth.

Your life is a very precious gift from God. Count back to one year before your first birthday, and then try to imagine your state - your state of nothingness. You can not. You may be able to contain and grasp "things," not "nothing." You were born and came to life, not because you wanted to, but because you became. Through a decision by an authority higher than you, and through a process that you did not participate in, you came to occupy a place in existence. (thanx ALLAH and my parents)

With the dramatic event of your birth, you came to life with three huge realities.

First, you are unique. Nobody else is identical to you, not even your identical twin or, in this age of cloning, even your clone, because your psychological, spiritual and energetic content is poured into your physical being in a unique way. When God blows a spirit into each individual, it manifests in a special way. You are one of a kind.

Second, you are immortal. Your biological structure, which is the product of the substance of earth, will degrade and recycle in the biological cycle on earth, but your energy, soul and spirit will always be. If you appreciate your uniqueness and your immortality, your individual values, responsibility and accountability will emerge. God reminds us in the Qur'an that;

"[And God shall say.'] "And now, indeed, you have come unto Us in a lonely state, even as We created you in the first instance,' and you have left behind you, all that We bestowed on you [in your lifetime]. And we do not see with you those intercessors of yours whom you supposed to have a share in Gods divinity with regard to yourselves! Indeed, all the bonds between you [and your earthly life] are now severed, and all your former fancies have forsaken you!" (6:94)

"and every one of them will appear before Him on Resurrection Day in a lonely state. " (19:95)

The third reality that comes with the happy event of your birth is a cobweb of expanding circles of relationships. These are different from the countless relationships you acquire throughout your life, such as your friends, neighbors, teammates, and spouses. The first package of relationships that come with your birth day are not subject to your choice; you do not choose your parents, siblings, kin, ancestors, race, gender, place of birth or even country of origin. This category of relationships is a gift form God, you accept, appreciate, and nurture. While the acquired relationships like spouse, friends, and career need prudence.

While you will inevitably gain and lose, everything you lose may be regained, except one thing, time.

It is interesting that you probably know the exact time, date and place of when and where your birth took place, but this is only because you were told about it. What is less clear is the elusive and mystical moment you truly became aware of your existence. This blurry time, when you became cognizant that you are you, and that you actually exist, just snuck up on you. From the moment of that realization, each individual experiences life in a unique way. While you may be exposed to the same circumstances as many others, how you feel, perceive, taste, understand and react to life circumstances is unique to you.

During the predetermined length of your life, you embark on new information, experiences, and habits in which you learn and perform as a human on this planet. While you will inevitably gain and lose, everything you lose may be regained, except one thing, time. If you lose time, it is gone. Any period of time is a chunk of life, both precious and irretrievable. Based on these simple realities, you will have some basic decisions to make: Are you going to waste your life or are you going to use it? Is your life going to center around you or will you reach wider spheres of involvement and concern? Wasting life partially or totally, i.e. in one lump or in installments, all can be considered a crime close to murder or suicide, even if the gradual waste does not seem that dramatic.

There are many forms and ways to waste a lifetime. With a careful look around you, you can recognize many of them: leading an aimless and purposeless life; abusing your own body, mind and soul; eroding the environment, being shallow and inefficient; all are ways to let the wonderful opportunity that we call life slip away. A life centered on your own self is selfish and never provides fulfillment. Since human beings are interdependent, you will not be happy if surrounded by unhappiness, envy, and animosity. A life that is not dedicated to a higher cause is an elusive quest for unattainable happiness.

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How unique our life is.. DO appreciate plz..

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Psych posting
18 April09

INSIGHT INSIDE

Bismillah and alhamdulillah...

Perceive life as it is ...

For one week, I have been struggling to understand all the terminologies in psychiatry; they do make sense when we tried to relate things together, joined them all circurmstantially and tangentially. Being one of the selected people ( read in the world) to study psychiatry makes me realize how important happiness is. I think psychiatry is part of myself and part of everyone , and indulging in it pleased me a lot. The pursuit of happiness is something that concerns us all, no matter where we live or what our station in life is. People have their own way to explore the path to finding happiness and please don't misunderstand them. The stigma and labelling are the culprits that destroy their lives further, what will you feel when people labelled you as M** when you think you are not? I kept on correcting to one of my friends ( the patient) that M** is not a medical term, and we don't address such thing, rather we regard those with disease as something out of norm. If they are in the state of denial can we conclude it as poor insight? You judge it !

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Is that normal to have a swing mood? Have you ever feel depressed with what you have and who you are now? Believe me, everyone has the period of depression at one point of life, be it minor, major, hypo or hyper one. Only a positive minded person plus the supportive environment knows how to cope with the stressful situation. Mind you guys, more people will suffer mental health problem in the year 2020 and it will be among the leading problems together with all sorts of cardiovascular diseases. May Allah bless us all with health and happiness....

How to cope with stress and depression?






The answer is equip ourselves with faith, hope, patience, acceptance....and never underestimate the power of a smile ( credit to my friend! )


We don't want to institutionalise people with mental disorder rather we want them to go back to the community and make them "a function" human being. No deprivation of rights and all.

There is one sister ( patient) will be discharged and she appears very happy. Can't wait to go out of the "world" into another "world".


"'I want to pray, i want to become a good daughter and i want to become independent.
Previously i was not a good daughter, and now the hidayah comes and i want to become a good person. Please write me the solat time so that i can pray when the times come, " explained one sister when i asked about her first to - do thing after leaving the ward.
"Then you must wear scarf (tudung) and you will be a good muslim too.. Yes i am interested in wearing scarf and i like to eat, so i want to work in a restaurant, i can eat and can earn money as well" .

I'm revealing this simply to open our eyes that the idea of keeping them and educating them do help them in life provided they comply with the medications. I really hope we have the INSIGHT to see the INSIDE of their hearts. Put ours into their shoes, understanding them and inshaAllah we will gain more strength too....
Now i know why Islam teaches us to visit the sick one, to send one to the graveyard, to help the needy..list goes on....

mashaAllah Islam is very beautiful but sadly very few practise Islam as ADDIN, take some, leave some and patch the hole......


May Allah swt helps us in our way towards HIM and all the best for all..


Fad

Congratulation..to whom shall we address?

Bismillah dan alhamdulillah...

We are done! The saying that goes everywhere and elsewhere..Congratulations to all fellow Paeds friends for a great perseverance in the face of difficulty!
Admit that i have been struggling for the past 8 weeks with the workloads, assignments and all those side stuff that somehow made me totally a "busy" person....
thing passed and the past is what we miss most...

This morning, the short case session went on well though the nervousness shielded my real capabilities...It was frustrating when you got quite a simple case and yet you could not do it better/ best......blaming ? point all fingers towards you. Really im hoping for the best and hopefully "hyperreflexia" elicited from the child this morning was the real "hyperreflexia"
I don't know how to express things further but plz ....

Can't wait to see the other world of medicine...Psychiatry posting next week !!!

Gulp.. gulp..gulp..

To all friends who helped me a lot during my ophtal and paeds....Bunch of thank you.


It is the prayer that brings our hearts closer....

Say yes to.......

your beautiful smile that sends a message of warmth and friendliness to others
your kind words that establish friednship as permitted in Islam and dispel rancour
acceptable charity that brings happiness to the poor and feeds hungry...............................


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SEDARI DIRI

Bismillah dan alhamdulillah...

Minggu ini minggu ketiga bersama bayi-bayi dan kanak-kanak comel, Tapi ada juga kanak-kanak yang sudah "tidak comel". Kenapa? Paediatric dikira sampai lah seseorang itu berumur 18 tahun.
Paling "best" bila seorang kanak-kanak umur 3 tahun memanggil saya "achik". "Macam mak sedara dia, "kata ibu kepada kanak-kanak yang namanya Haiqal.
Sama seperti nama anak saudara juga, Haiqal ( anak saudara yang berumur 3tahun). Tapi perangai mereka berdua macam langit dengan bumi. Pesakit di wad ni bukan sekadar kanak-kanak biasa, tapi banyak juga yang kanak-kanak istimewa. Yang paling saya kagumi adalah ketabahan seorang ibu dalam menjaga anak-anak istimewa mereka. Mungkin di sudut hati mereka kita tidak pasti, tetapi sekurang-kurangnya nilai penghargaan dan kesyukuran mereka tergambar dalam percakapan mereka dan prihatinnya pada anak-anak mereka. Kanak-kanak dalam usia sedemikian sudah belajar erti penderitaan dan keredhaan. Paling menyedihkan sekiranya anda berpeluang melawat bilik ICU. Masing-masing tidak berada pada GLascow Coma Scale 15 dengan pelbagai devices yang disambung pada tubuh-tubuh kecil mereka. Ibu mana yang mampu menahan melihat penderitaan anak mereka?

Ini bukanlah pati utama entri ini. Lebih pada tazkiyattunnafs dalam memahami erti kehidupan di dunia. Untuk diri saya dan anda semua, hidup kita ( di dunia) tidak lama, ibarat singgah sebentar untuk berteduh dari panas. Tapi perjalanan ini terasa begitu lama , kerana kita perlu bercucuk tanam sementara untuk memastikan ada bekalan untuk perjalanan ke destinasi kita seterusnya. Tetapi sepanjang persinggahan ini, banyak yang kita belajar , dari sekecil-kecil perkara sehinggalah sebesar-besar hal yang menuntut kita untuk memahami erti hidup ini.

Ada orang yang dikurniakan Allah dengan kebolehan yang mengagumkan. Dalam konteks dunia pelajar, apa yang dapat saya perhatikan ada yang selalu beroleh kejayaan dalam ujian mereka ( ujian dunia pelajar seperti peperiksaan) . Kadangkala mata kasar manusia akan bertanya sejauh mana usaha dia sehingga Allah memberi kejayaan sedemikian. Banyak professional yang berkongsi resepi dan rahsia kejayaan mereka , rata-rata berpendapat "kembali kepada ALlah" sebagai konsep yang utama dalam mencapai kejayaan. Seteleah berusaha, berserahlah kepada-Nya untuk menentukan pengakhiran itu. Tetapi masalah kita selalu tidak menilai pada hati. Kurang yakin pada ketentuanNya. Dan yang paling penting " Kita HambaNYa, maka kita layak diuji"

Itulah pegangan saya dalam melayari kehidupan ini. Sebagai manusia biasa kita tertakluk pada sunnatullah dan syariatullah dan kita tiada hak untuk mempersoalkan soal takdir dan ketentuan. Agak rumit untuk dibicarakan tetapi apabila kita meletakkan dan menyerahkan segala-galanya pada Allah, inshaAllah penentuan Allah adalah yang terbaik...

Semoga kehidupan kita diiringi dengan rahmatNya sentiasa.

selamat datang pada sebuah kehidupan baru.........

Bismillah...

Di sebalik kehangatan hawa pulau ini, saya kira masih bersisa ketenangan yang kadang kala sering dilupakan atau dibuat-buat lupa.

Pulau ini masih ada damainya, biarpun hati ini merintih tatkala melepaskan pandangan sepi pada berlalunya kelibat keluarga tersayang siang tadi.

Apapun realitinya Isnin ini bermulalah kehidupan baru kami semua , secara ringkasnya ranjau baru bakal ditemui, dihadapi dan di"tabahi". Tiada sesalan kerna telah kupilih jalan itu.

Berbunga hati dalam rintihan.. Semuanya kerana kanak- kanak itu. Siapa kanak- kanak itu? Kanak-kanak yang bakal menyambut kami semua sepanjang tempoh itu . Untung bagi kami , "posting paediatrics" memang menyenangkan hati, walaupun kerengsaan tetap ada.

Semoga semester baru berjalan dengan lancar....
Selamat bermujahadah buat kawan-kawan semua.

" tidaklah orang muslim ditimpa kesukaran dan keletihan. dukacita dan sedih ,penderitaan dan kemurungan , bahkan duri yang menusuknya sekali pun, melainkan ALLAH MENGAMPUNI DOSA-DOSANYA" ( HR al-bukhari dan Muslim)

webnotes yang menarik :

the law of understanding

Bismillah..
Alhamdulillah...things over but another series of similar events are inviting me.
I'm getting to know the "LAW" better after few weeks indulging in it, understanding the origin, application and its significance. Though only 0.0000001% or may be less learnt during those period, i simply can draw my own conclusion which only me knows that. "A little bit sad for being ignorant and not realising the truth that lies behind a lie"...Legal medicine is interesting, not only because of its sui generic thingy but also because YOU MUST know that. A blend of ethics and principles which may not make it taste like a real juice...Anyway, just want to share something gotten from one site which i think useful and very practical.. It is a real law , most important not a man made one!!!

read more from here:

http://www.thenutgraph.com/islam-beyond-hudud

hopefully one day, dreams come true!
Amin...

To whom it may concern.....

Preparing for the realities of marriage
(source: Islamicity Bulletin)

How ludicrous would it be for a person to hold a grand opening for a new business then leave for vacation the next day or go to a job interview without having read the job description? Equally absurd is the way many people get married each year without any knowledge of or preparation for the realities of marriage. Couples make elaborate wedding and honeymoon plans but none for a life together. Additionally, many are looking for spouses to marry without looking at their responsibilities in a marriage.

Based on fairy tales spun by the media and pop culture, young women dream of finding their Prince Charming and living happily ever after. We think that once we are married, everything will just sort itself out. Some of us think that marriage is a solution or an escape or that our spouses will "complete us." Compounding this are values of mainstream society and their effect on the psyche of adolescents. Years of struggling with issues of dating and pre-marital sex in school as well as constant bombardment through films and television of unrealistic images of what love, sex and marriage are have affected our outlook on marriage and the opposite sex. So, when the time comes to get married, we often carry unrealistic expectations of what being married will be like and how our spouses will be.

Many young Muslims are not prepared for marriage and have not cultivated the skills to create a lasting relationship. While the general American population has the world's highest divorce rate, 48.6 percent, Muslims in the United States come in not too far behind at 33 percent. One in three Muslims marriage here will end in divorce- not surprising considering we are living in a "divorce culture" where independence and individual happiness often come first. When the marriage does not fulfill the individual's needs, the marriage is questioned. Terms such as "starter marriage" are becoming more common in the Muslim community as divorces among newlywed couples, after only months of being married, increase. Furthermore, couples in multicultural marriages are experiencing complex issues because of their background differences and often find little support from their families and communities because of certain cultural ideas about marriage. These couples often become resigned to ending the marriage. Newlyweds sometimes don't readily acknowledge that they must work on the marriage for it to survive. Many divorce when marriage is not whhat they expected or harder than they imagined. Divorce is now considered a plausible option among young Muslims, unlike the generation before them. Now, more than ever, we should prepare ourselves and our children for the realities of marriage. Preparing for marriage is as important as having an accurate road map before driving cross country.



Preparing for marriage is more than searching for a spouse; it begins with discovering who you are as a person.


Undergo Self-Reflection

Preparing for marriage is more than searching for a spouse; it begins with discovering who you are as a person and what you will bring to a marriage. Identify what innate beliefs you hold because these are the things that are least likely to change about you. Your values and beliefs are your compass in life and will determine your lifestyle and the choices you make. Understanding what is important to you clarifies the type of person with whom you will be compatible. Reflection is a process of self-growth that can be difficult, but it shows maturity and a true understanding of the intensity of marriage. Ask yourself these questions: "What is my personal set of life values?" "What are my fears?" "What are my strengths?" "What are my weaknesses?" Identifying your flaws is equally important because it provides you with personal goals for self-improvement. It will also provide your future spouse insight into your weaknesses, as well as the things that may never change about you.

Establish Compatibility

Before you can determine the type of person you are compatible with, you first need to understand what compatibility is. It doesn't mean you will be exactly like your spouse, but rather, that you share many similarities and hold mutual respect for your differences, It is important to find someone who shares your core values and beliefs and whose long-term goals correspond with yours. Having complementary values and goals helps married couples grow closer to Allah because they will constantly strive in the same direction and have fewer disagreements in their marriage. True and realistic love will be found in the everydayness of marriage when sharing common interests and doing interesting things together. But, be careful if you find yourself making excuses for incompatibility or you start believing that the other person will change once you're married. People rarely change. Qualities in a potential spouse that do not align with your core values and beliefs are red flags because that person is about as unlikely to change as you are. When making a decision about an element of incompatibility, ask yourself; "Can I maintain my beliefs while married to this person even if he/she doesn't change?" Acknowledge that you simply can't control your spouse's way of being. Being able to maintain mutual respect for your differences will likely prevent many tensions in the marriage.

Understand You- Expectations Ascertain the expectations you hold for marriage. Many couples enter a marriage with unspoken and usually unconscious expectations of what their spouse is going to provide and fulfill. Honestly examining your expectations of marriage and your potential spouse is a necessary step in preventing disappointment. Ask yourself, "What do I think marriage will be like?" "Who and what have influenced these expectations?"

"What is my parents' relationship like?" "How does this play a role in what I expect in my marriage?" "What does the term 'husband' mean to me?" The answers to these types of questions will help spotlight your expectations about marriage and the basis for those expectations. Understanding your expectations and assessing how realistic they are is a vital step toward helping you enter into marriage with open eyes.

Communicate

Everybody should acquire two critical skills before getting married:

Communication and conflict resolution. These are essential to making a marriage successful. You and your potential spouse will begin to understand how you each communicate as you get to know one another. Not communicating and misinterpreting communication will cause numerous problems in a marriage. This is the time to ask yourself; "Am I good at communicating my feelings and thoughts?" "How do I resolve a conflict: do I ignore it, solve it?" "Am I a good listener?" Understanding your approach and identifying your weaknesses are valuable because marriage carries the responsibility to communicate your needs and frustrations with your spouse. It is equally important to understand your spouse's communication style and conflict resolution skills and how compatible they are to yours. Ultimately, the effort you and your spouse put in this area will form the backbone of your marriage.

Entering into a marriage is a time to grow as an individual and to grow interdependently with a spouse. Having the courage to discover your expectations and weaknesses and taking responsibility for the direction of your marriage requires a mature approach. To grow spiritually in your marriage requires that you learn to be less selfish and more loving, even during times of conflict. Move beyond the fantasy and unrealisttic expectations and realize that marriage is about making a conscious choice to love and care for your spouse-even when you do not feel like it. A marriage needs love, support, tolerance, honesty, respect, humility, realistic expectations and a sense of humor to be successful.

These values will help a marriage survive conflict, disappointment and problems. Marriage is a beautiful relationship that Muslims should enter with an understanding of all of its dimensions. If Prophet Muhammad reminds us that marriage is "half our faith," then how can we as Muslims go into something this central with a lack of preparation and understanding? We can only be good spouses once we understand what it means to be married and mentally prepare ourselves for the amazing journey.


Munira Lekovic Ezzeldine is the author of Before the Wedding: 150 Questions for Muslims to Ask before Getting Married. Munira has also written two Islamic Studies textbooks for the Bureau of Islamic and Arabic Education. She received her undergraduate degree from UCLA and is currently pursuing her master's degree in Marriage and Family Counseling at California State University, Fullerton. For the last eight years, Munira has worked with youth groups, teaching classes and mentoring. Her extensive speaking on the topics of marriage and gender equity coupled with her experience of being raised as a Muslim in the United States gives her the ability to connect with the young Muslim generation. Munira is happily married and has two children.


to my sis: cant wait for ur walimah....
to myself: be prepared...